While during this painting, drops from his brush fell on his painting/artwork, and he was so angry & mad about himself (he is very emotional ... er, just like his mom), he wanted to throw the whole artwork. He gave up. I didn't throw the artwork. I let it dry. He made another one.
When the first one was dry, and that both the boys were done with painting, I used the remnants of paints & finish (my own way) P's first painting. I had told him that it was not good for him to think that his painting was ruined because of these water+paint drops, and that no painting is wrong/bad, because you usually don't know what the painting/artwork will be at the end (unless you have a VERY precise idea of what you're wanting to paint !!).
He is too perfectionnist & not enough tolerant with himself, and not free enough in his movements & thoughts (that's what I think, at least) I'm not very happy/proud about this, and want to help him create anything with a free mind, no limit, no restraint.
When what I had painted (on his 1st painting) was dry, I showed him, and he was happy & relieved, and he hugged me tight & told me "thank you mom". I was so relieved, happy about what I had done.
It was a good lesson for both of us.
He learnt that he must never give up
I learnt that I must have my boys craft more, create more, and help them craft & create their own way.
In other news, poor little U had the very bad surprise of an expected cavitty (and a little infection to go with it - we went to the dentist's on Friday & have to go to another's next Tuesday) ... and also has the unluck to have another (but viral, this time) throat infection, which made him have fever these last two days. (we went to the doctor this morning - where he vomited, poor thing)
Should I say that these last two days at my parents' were not exactly what I had in mind ... oh well ... nevermind.
Hubby will be leaving tomorrow in the early afternoon, to go to Corsica. It's gonna be a long, busy week. (don't be too surprised if I don't manage to blog a lot, but sometimes in the chaos I surprise myself ... so ... you never know)
Have a good weekend / Sunday, everyone.
oxox
Sonia
What a wonderful mom you are - your children will thank you for this - not only now but many times in their lives, for the lessons you have taught them. I hope you feel very proud - you deserve it.
ReplyDeleteGood luck with your busy week.
My son, too, sometimes has difficulty if he makes a "mistake" on his drawings. He gets very upset if he draws a line wrong, or something doesn't come out the way he can see it in his head. And then he gets frustrated and angry. We're trying to slowly work through it with him, and explain that sometimes things work out differently, and that's not bad - just different! Hopefully it's a "phase" he's going through, as he often gets very upset if our plans change, or things can't happen as he had hoped. I think he gets very focussed on what's meant to happen, rather than thinking about the fact that things change and happen as they happen. Not as we plan them.
ReplyDeleteI'm really glad you were able to show your son about the change in artwork being a good thing. I think this is all we can do - slowly help them by showing them, rather than telling them.
I hope you had a good week.
I experience the same thing with my oldest. He thinks he needs to do everything perfectly the very first time. If he fails, he gets really down on himself, and if he thinks he *might* fail, he doesn't want to try. I think your approach is just perfect, to show them how to keep at it, to make lemonade from lemons. You're a very good momma.
ReplyDeletePoor little U. Let's hope he's all fixed up soon.
Sending hugs to all of you. xoxo
Oh, Sonia ... I'm sorry for the vomiting and the drama .... but what a beautiful lesson you learned this week (coming from another who can have perfectionist tendencies)
ReplyDeleteBest Wishes, Kara
I'm working my way backwards Sonia. I haven't logged into my dashboard for a while, so have been catching up with my reads.
ReplyDeleteA good lesson to learn. Children do get so frustrated with themselves.I'm always having to soothe Humbug's frustrations. I'm glad P was happy.
Poor U though, what a horrible time he is having. Hope he is totally well and better soon. xx